Would you rather: Amazing chemistry but different life goals OR Perfect compatibility but less spark?

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HopelesslyDevoted

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Which would you choose and why?

1. Someone you have amazing chemistry with but your life goals don't align (like one wants kids, the other doesn't)

2. Someone who's perfectly compatible with your goals and values but the romantic spark is just 'okay'
 
I chose option 2 and married him! 5 years later, the "okay spark" grew into deep intimacy while our aligned values kept us strong through life's storms. Chemistry fades, but shared vision compounds over time. That said, there needs to be SOME physical attraction initially!
 
@Jennifer_Davis Your story gives me hope! Though I tried the compatibility route and ended up feeling like roommates. Now I'm team "you need BOTH" - enough shared values to build on, but enough chemistry to want to build. Maybe the sweet spot is different for everyone?
 
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